Meet Closure for the Heart’s Founder and President
“I had a hole in my heart… in the shape of my father”

I know the tremendous emotional void that an absent family member can leave behind, and the incredible liberation that comes with closure. I know this not just because of my twelve years of experience at America’s largest people locating agency – I know because I’ve been there.

 

I spent the first 21 years of my life without my father.

Growing up, I had no idea who my father was. It bothered me, sometimes it even hurt. And there were questions about him that I asked myself over and over again: What does he look like? Does he think about me? Is it somehow my fault that he isn’t around? Is he even alive?

As Roland Warren of the National Fatherhood Initiative once said, “Whenever there’s an absence of a father in the life of a child, there is a hole in their soul in the shape of their father.” I can’t think of a better way to express the emptiness I felt during that time.

My mother wouldn’t answer my questions for many years. It wasn’t until I was twenty-one that she sat me down and said, “I have something to tell you. I think you’re ready now.”

Before I knew it, she was giving me my father’s name and whereabouts, and the reasons she had left him while she was pregnant with me. My emotions flashed from shock, to joy, to anger and back again.

I got in touch with my father, but I’d be lying if I said it was easy getting to know him. Even though we don’t have the same relationship that we would have had if I’d grown up with him, I so needed that closure. As I got answers to the questions that had plagued me for so many years, that hole in my heart started to heal.

My relationship with my mother began to heal, too. Once I had reconnected with my father, that tension and anger between my mother and me faded away. I realized that, even though her choices had caused me pain in the short term, she was only trying to protect me.

 

Now, I want to help you find closure in your life.

Because I know how important it is for children and their fathers to connect, I have dedicated my life to helping people do just that.

At Closure for the Heart, my colleagues and I make a point of dedicating time and care to people like you – people who have this incredibly important step ahead of them.

You’re not alone.

This is my calling. I do it for children of all ages who have lived without their fathers, who are ready to finally get some answers. And I do it for fathers who, like mine, have the courage to admit to themselves and their families: “There’s no excuse for what happened, and I can’t change the past – but I can work toward a better future with my children.”

My team and I bring this understanding to each and every case we take on. We assure you: Your wounds can heal too, and it’s never too late to bring your family together.

Reconnecting with your father or child begins with our search application.